Dating issues

One of the things I wanted to do with this site is to offer dating advice to folks living with diabetes, especially if you're new to it. It's one of those things that doesn't get talked about in public very much, but this disease is still very much a stealth one, especially if you're not some superstar with a personal chef, trainer, and support staff holding your hand every minute.

I lead a pretty active social life, and that includes going on dates but as of lately, going on dates with that one special person. I think out of the hundreds of dates I've gone on in my lifetime (very active social life) I've told maybe one out of 50 of them about my diabetes. If I can cover it up, I will do so for as long as it seems feasible. Wouldn't it be nice, I think to myself sometimes, to have it be a nonissue? My current love interest actually found out by taking me to the ER for some breathing problems I was having. Amazingly, this person stayed with me the whole time I was in the ER getting checked out for tons of things, and therefore was privy to my entire medical history, rather, in very clinical terms. As you can probably guess I was very much mortified and worried that all this information would make the object of my affections turn tail and run, but no, this tale has a happy ending, at least so far.

No adverse affects from hearing that I have to shoot up insulin twice a day and that sometimes, if I don't eat enough I get all weird and punchy-drunk and can't quite keep my head. Just concern, patient support, and a general poo pooing of the fact tha I'm sick. So there are ways to get around it, there are ways to hide it, and there are ways to go about bringing it up that don't necessarily end in disaster or tragedy. If any of you are facing this or curious, please feel free to write me, or write it here.

So after a month of being in a total contact cast i saw the ortho surgeon who said i'm NOT a candidate for surgery, which is a big relief. i do however have to wear this cast for another month, at least, to see where the bones go from here. the swelling has gone down,, which is good, and it's not particularly painful, but to see the deformity of the bones now that it's not football sized is, i'll be honest, kind of gross. i'm still looking for a job that requires office skills and no standing, so if anyone knows of anything, please let me send you my resume :) otherwise, i hope anyone reading this is doing well and if you also have diabetes, take care of yourself, check your feet, use a mirror, get a podiatrist to keep track of things and keep your nails trimmed and filed, and keep your chin up, it's not as bad as it seems.